Healing ThySelf
What is the strongest story we have in our head?
Only 3 to 5% of our behavior is consciously driven.
We honestly all have healing to do...trust me that no one came out of childhood unscathed.
But there’s not just an instant button for ‘heal’, it is a process that is we must feel (all the feelings, no cherry picking here) we must deal with what is repeatedly and truthfully surfacing for us and then...only then can we begin to heal.
Truly, we are mainly on this course of Feel, Deal and Heal with all the stuff from our past that is still in our present. Yes, it may look a little different….but if you dig down to that root you’ll see the resemblance.
Everyone, before the age of 12 , has gone through at least one impactful thing-usually MANY-that impact your self love, self talk and how you see the world. This may have stemmed from relationships with parents, interactions at school, etc.
These moments become programmed into our brain, into our bodies and stick with us until they are healed.
We get scared to heal because we don’t want to “re-live it”.
We build up walls that look like…”Oh ________made me stronger” ; but is there actually “zero charge” there? Is there maybe anger underneath the statement/the story?
Compassion is stronger than courage.
Maybe we try to compensate instead by being an overachiever or a people-pleaser. It is here that we need to ask ourselves “What is driving us?”
If our emotions are suppressed, if we are not allowing ourselves that first step of ‘feeling’ and then a disappointment happens-like a breakup-it can feel like our entire world has ended and that is because that breakup or fight was literally sitting on a time bomb of suppression.
When we are not doing the internal work, taking the steps to actually feel, deal and heal we get shaken and rattled way deeper, everything feels more intense (internal is reflected in external).
Healing even applies to the small stuff...the stuff you literally think you “failed” at even though it molded you through a beautiful lesson, you can carry the ‘failure’ unconsciously living with this wound in your side.
The ability to ask for friggen help is part of healing. It is the dealing with getting past your victim mentality of being helpless. We are not meant to do this life alone.
These moments when we are called to Heal are not about ‘getting over it’ and pushing past the lesson, the probable expansion but rather ‘getting through it’, be in the process in order to be in your purpose.
This journey is about understanding yourself from a psychological and emotional perspective that we are here to thrive and not just survive.
True self love is when you can become the most amazing, loving parent to yourself, always ready and willing to offer unconditional love, compassion and acceptance.
Divinely Guided,
<3
Hannah